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Revenge Porn – Don’t

Revenge Porn

You may have read recently about the “Erin Brockovich” Of Revenge Porn. Revenge porn has been in the news quite a bit recently. There’s California’s new revenge porn bill to ensure perpetrators receive 6 months for first offenses, and 1 year for repeat offenses. And now there’s even a Federal revenge porn law in the works.

I’m not schooled enough in law to pontificate on the finer points of these bills or their implications, so I’ll just say, simply, that efforts to punish people who are recipients of such trust from their partners, and then violate that trust so viciously and publicly, will probably be okay with me. I’d say we build a government web site where people can browse photos and videos of the tiny penises belonging to men who would be compelled commit such a betrayal, but I guess prison will have to do.

What I want to do is simple: encourage people not to be assholes. If you break up with a girl, no matter how badly you feel she treated you, and even if you feel that she betrayed you first, be the bigger person. Keep her private photos and videos private.

What concerns me most is the continuing American saga of the public blaming the victim. A significant segment of the population has taken to social media to say things such as “If you don’t want people to see your private bits, then why did you take pictures of them in the first place?” Or, “If you’re stupid enough to make a video of yourself naked, then I can’t sympathize when that video goes public.”

The writer Patrick Rothfuss had a great analogy:

It’s like if someone stole 200 bucks off me, and you rolled your eyes and said, “Well what do you expect, walking around with all that money in your pocket?”

If a woman walks down the street naked and touching herself, that is not permission to rape her. If a person has hundred dollar bills hanging right out of his or her back pocket, that is not permission to steal it. And if a person trusted someone enough to take sexy photos or videos, that is not permission to show those photos and videos to other people. Period.

Revenge is a disease, and it tends to become cyclical. Maybe you pissed her off, so she flirted with a guy in front of you. That pissed you off, so you made out with a girl. That pissed her off, so she cheated with your friend. Now, you think this gives you the right to escalate things further and show her naked body to the world. It doesn’t. If you think it does, this only shows the simplicity of your mind. The astute mind would recognize that the cycle is only escalating, and that there’s no happy ending in site. The astute mind would choose to stop the cycle, choose to either forgive or leave his partner, and would put the madness behind him. And an astute mind would realize that this is venturing well into the territory of non-consensual, meaning once you’ve done this, you’re really a bit of a rapist.

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Over the course of his long and illustrious career, Danny C has been dubbed the last remaining true connoisseur of fine scat. The New York Times once named him, "The world's forefront expert and appreciator of the nearly lost art of scat munching." Danny's contributions to the world of scat tasting have included numerous essays on new and rare techniques, a wonderful coffee table book titled, "Scat Delicacies from Around the World - An Illustrated Guide," the resurrection of ancient and nearly forgotten Chinese bowel exercises, and his most recent book, "Scat Propulsion for Maximum Force and Accuracy." Danny now runs his own institute, a 3 week course designed for beginners and scat-munching veterans alike. He regularly organizes workshops for those who would like to participate in the more esoteric practices such as scat bathing, scat wrestling, and other feces-related niche pastimes. To book an appointment today, simply contact him directly through this page and he or one of his assistants will get back to you within two business days.